Virtual neurodivergent-affirming therapy across Ontario
Neurodivergent-affirming therapy for the brain you actually have.
You do not need to organize your thoughts perfectly, make eye contact, sit still, explain why something “simple” is hard, or perform being okay before therapy can be useful.
I’m Kai DeMaeyer, a queer, nonbinary, neurodivergent Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying). I offer neurodivergent-affirming therapy for adults navigating ADHD, AuDHD, autistic experience, masking, burnout, sensory overwhelm, rejection sensitivity, relationships, identity, and systems that keep asking for more than your capacity.
- Adults
- Virtual across Ontario
- $140 per 50 minutes
- No formal diagnosis required
- Free 15-minute consultation
This may sound familiar
You understand more than you can consistently make happen.
You know what to do. Starting is different.
Task initiation, transitions, time, working memory, attention, and demand can create a wide gap between knowledge, intention, and action.
You can look capable and still be running out of capacity.
Masking, scripting, over-functioning, and pushing through can hide how much recovery, preparation, or private collapse daily life requires.
Your feelings arrive faster than language.
Rejection sensitivity, urgency, shame, anger, shutdown, or overwhelm may take over before you can identify what happened or what you need.
Relationships get caught in differences of pace.
Processing time, directness, sensory load, tone, repair urgency, and different communication styles can create misread intentions and conflict.
A new understanding has changed your life story.
Diagnosis, self-identification, or questioning can bring relief, grief, anger, impostor feelings, and a need to reinterpret years of experience.
Practical support
Make daily life more workable.
Therapy can be concrete. We can build external supports, language, pacing, boundaries, and systems around the places where life repeatedly jams.
- Task initiation, transitions, routines, and time
- Sensory needs, overload, shutdown, and recovery
- Communication scripts, boundaries, and direct requests
- Conflict pacing, processing time, and repair
- Capacity planning that includes rest and real limits
Deeper work
Understand what the pattern has been protecting.
Practical tools matter. So do the shame, grief, identity, trauma, relationships, and years of adaptation underneath the places where you get stuck.
- Masking, people-pleasing, and performing okay
- Rejection sensitivity, shame, and emotional intensity
- Late diagnosis, self-identification, and identity
- Burnout, grief, trauma, illness, and body limits
- Relationships, intimacy, belonging, and self-trust
Neurodivergent-affirming care
Your needs are useful information.
Affirming therapy does not measure success by how well you can resemble a neurotypical person. We look for greater clarity, capacity, choice, support, and ways of living that fit you more honestly.
The pace can be adjusted.
You can bring notes, pause, take time to answer, ask for directness, return to an earlier point, or say when a question feels too broad.
Context stays visible.
Overwhelm, avoidance, distraction, shutdown, conflict, and burnout are considered alongside sensory load, environment, relationships, expectations, history, nervous system, and available capacity.
Insight and tools can coexist.
My approach integrates Narrative Therapy, parts work, relational and psychodynamic attention, somatic awareness, DBT-informed skills, and trauma-informed care.
Diagnosis is not an entry requirement.
You may be diagnosed, late diagnosed, self-identified, questioning, exploring, or simply aware that standard advice has never fit. We can begin with your lived experience.
You can book before you have a neat explanation.
Book Your Free ConsultWhat to expect
A clear structure with room to adjust.
Start with a free consult
We briefly discuss what brings you in, what you want from therapy, scheduling, and whether my approach feels like a useful fit.
Begin with a working map
We identify the main concern, relevant history and context, your goals, current capacity, and what would make sessions easier to use.
Adjust as we learn
We can change pace, language, structure, amount of reflection, level of directness, and how practical or exploratory the work feels.
Build what fits
We develop supports, language, boundaries, routines, relationship practices, and a more accurate understanding of how you function.
Common questions
Before you reach out.
Do I need a formal ADHD or autism diagnosis?
No. I work with diagnosed, late-diagnosed, self-identified, questioning, and exploring neurodivergent adults. Therapy is based on your lived experience and needs rather than proof of diagnosis.
What makes therapy neurodivergent-affirming?
The goal is greater understanding, support, agency, and fit. Sensory needs, communication styles, processing time, capacity, directness, routines, interests, and nervous system responses are treated as relevant information rather than inconveniences to overcome.
Can I bring notes or take time to answer?
Yes. You are welcome to bring notes, write between sessions, ask me to repeat or rephrase something, pause before answering, return to a topic, or tell me that a question is too broad.
Can therapy help with executive functioning?
Yes. We can work with task initiation, transitions, procrastination, time, routines, shame cycles, avoidance, and building external supports. Therapy also looks at the emotional and contextual patterns surrounding executive functioning rather than acting as productivity coaching.
Can we discuss relationships, sex, identity, or burnout too?
Yes. Neurodivergence is part of a whole life. Therapy can include relationships, communication, sex, intimacy, identity, grief, trauma, illness, family, work, and burnout without treating them as separate from how your brain and nervous system move through the world.
Is therapy virtual?
Yes. Sessions are offered virtually to adults across Ontario who can meet from a private space.
Start with what you have
A clear explanation can come later.
The free 15-minute consultation is a low-pressure place to meet me, ask questions, and see whether the format and approach feel workable for you.
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